Friday, November 3

Guilt..

Why must we feel guilt? Guilt when things can't get done, or don't get done. Guilt when things don't happen, or we don't make them happen. Or when things are just down right out of our control. Take today for instance. My son is sick. Fever, sore throat, headache. But I am suppose to work on Friday. My one day a week that I have a 'clock in, clock out' J.O.B. so, I called in. Like any good mother. I can not and will not expect my mom to watch 3 kids. (one 5 months, one 17 months and one SICK) I just can't do that to her. she would probably say yes, but that is NOT the point. Before an employee I am a MOM. A caregiver. An 'I-can-make-you-feel-better-with-my-kisses' Momma. But I got such a guilt trip when I called. I think the exact quote was "I'll leave that decision on shoulders." Ouch. Why can't they just say, "You stay with your child where you belong, and we'll get by just fine." I am there to pick up slack when others are sick or on vacation, why can't they be there for me? Now, they will cover, because I didn't give them a choice. But why do I fell guilty? I shouldn't, should I?
Ok.. I must go care for my children.
:) Abbie

5 comments:

Caron said...

The work world is cold. It is a selfish place where not many people like to be. Rarely do you find passionate people in capitalistic machine. You are resented because you don't "have" to work. When you call in sick they have to fill in an unexpected gap in their workforce. Most worker-bees have a hard time thinking beyond the usual. So ... I say F-them if they can't deal with a little inconvenience. You are a mom who has the option of staying home with her sick child to take care of him. I think it's an indulgence to take care of one's sick child - it makes us feel like we are accomplishing something important. It proves we are needed. It makes us feel good when we have actively done something to make our children feel better.

Screw work - it's a heartless world centered on making money not families. And don't get me started on working with catty women! They're not worth it. :-)

Abbie said...

thank you Caron!
:) Abbie

Caron said...

Anytime. :)

C.

Anonymous said...

I agree with Caron, try to put this guilt away. It's the same here in Germany, they make you feel bad when you have to stay home with your kids. It's really rare to have a good boss who can understand! But I know that guilt feeling. Plus if you filled in for other before, hey than other can fill in for you! I hope the cold is gone soon in your house. Lars has his first Kindergarten cold and had to stay home today! What a great start in the 2nd week. Oh well. I don't want him to spread the germs all over with his runny nose!

Anonymous said...

Thanks for your cheer up. I really needed it this weekend, but my spirits are higher again.....we will do that somehow! And a lot of times it works just out fine...all that stressing for nothing......